is there a man’s man for me?
August 29, 2008 // Posted by: la coquette // Category: menA friend, exasperated with my list-making and seemingly Seinfeldian-reasoning for ignoring men, recently posed the question, “What are you looking for in a man?”
Without hesitation I answered, “A man’s man. That’s what I want.”
Finding a man’s man is difficult. In my experience, men today don’t exude that aura. They compromise. They don’t stride in when others fail to live up to expectations. Granted, there are a few left out there that do.
Self-confidence plays a large part in this character’s development. Self-aware, he eschews grand displays of bravada for bravada’s sake. He retreats from the limelight. He allows attention to find him; he does not seek it out.
He enjoys looking his best. He doesn’t spend hours with unguents, potions and pots of lotion. He knows the worth of ‘bed-head’ in attracting a woman. The allure of the five o’clock shadow, a knowing smirk and a wicked gleam in his eye are all the accessories he might need.
He wears the clothes; they don’t wear him. He enjoys dressing well or dressing down. What he wears is a matter of personal style and taste, not what the glossies tell him to wear.
He enjoys life and lives it. He’s not filled with ‘could-have-beens’ or ‘I-should-haves.’ He enjoys company in his pursuits or he can enjoy them on his own. He is comfortable in his own skin and with his own company.
I’m looking for a man that takes care of himself. Confidence oozes from his pores. Yet, at the same time, he doesn’t allow the attention he receives to make him cocky or self-centered. His attitudes aren’t cavalier. His emotions don’t swing from hot to cold and then back again. He knows what he wants and how to go about getting it. He voices his opinions, even if unpopular. He can be the life of the party or he can enjoy time spent alone enjoying his vices. I want a man that doesn’t give a damn about what other’s think yet is mindful of others and their feelings.
All-in-all, a rather difficult man to find that hasn’t already been snatched up by someone. The below image I found on d-listed. It is of Tom Ford and, for me, he epitomizes a man’s man.
Carly Simon: You’re So Vain: Carly Simon: Clouds in My Coffee 1965-1995 [4:18]
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